我认识某某人。。。

当某人提到，“我认识“某某”人。。。”
我们的反应是？哇！你交游广大，政坛人物，要职高官都认识！不得了！！！
这是让旁人极为羡慕的吧！

可是，当我们“静”下来想想，此“认识”，与“彼”（也就是我们所理解的）“认识”- 是相同的的吗？

相信要看情况而定吧！而且也得看各人对“认识”有多认识！

根据 “汉典”【zdic.net 漢 典 网】： 认识 被解为。。。
(1).能够确定某一人或事物是这个人或事物而不是别的。
(2).指人的头脑对客观世界的反映。 毛泽东 《人的正确思想是从那里来的？》：“一个正确的认识，往往需要经过由物质到精神，由精神到物质，即由实践到认识，由认识到实践这样多次的反复，才能够完成。” 艾思奇 《辩证唯物主义历史唯物主义》第八章：“认识和照镜子、摄影有相类似的地方，但又有着根本的不同。”

往往，当我们提到“认识”某人，是指根对方有一定的交往，某个程度的了解，彼此记得对方的名字，稍有联络吧！不是一面之缘。

不然的话，譬如总统先生每逢公共假日，开放总统府时，迎来了全国人民，难道他也认识了全国人民吗？难道那些到总统府见过总统先生的，都认识他？最多，也只能說是会过面吧！

是的，曾经有幸与总统先生交谈过。那只能说是会过面吧！

你，我，我们

很久以前，其实，也不过是开始负责某部门后，开始比较注意到某些字或词的用法。后来，到了总部后，由于负责的是培训同僚的工作，就更加的小心用词。

很多人都喜欢在讲话时用“你”这个字。瞬息间，就把自己与对方之间竖立了一道墙。我就是我，你就是你。我们属于不同的等级，甚至 “世界”！天啊！“你”真了不起！

“我”呢？当然，就是很自我中心的。“我”亲力亲为，那时“我”的构思，“我”的点子。一丝一毫都是“我”的心血！当然，很多时候，将到“我”时，自己大多都会忘了他人的奉献，的付出。给予“独来独往”的印象。那，团体经神往哪儿去了？

至于“我们”，就了不起了。大伙的囤体经神。是一致的。

when I'm on Leave...

...

me: ah! Fingers have been busy the whole morning... being on leave is even busier! hahaha... yes... had lunch liao :D

friend: ...what? you take leave to do work at home? wasting leave right?

me: .... er? more productive... it's so autopilot... unless am out of home... it's raining outside... cool cool

friend: you very boring leh. down here hot like mad, where got rain?

...

That was the short conversation I had with a friend this morning (via GTalk)... oh yes... that's the reaction from most people - What? Take leave and work at home? Well, if on leave and not going out the house, what else will I do? Automatically, switch on my computer and start checking email, etc... hahaha... It's just like in the past when I taught in a nearby school... when school vacation came, where would I normally end up in? hahaha.... when I were not overseas, would probably ended up in my 2nd home... of course, one pull factor was distance!

Actually what's wrong when one enjoys work? and work has become part of his/her life? Hm... please don't label such people a workaholic! Well, this person does not necessary lead a boring life!

Immediately, that reminds me a segment I read in this book "TRIBES - we need you to lead us" by Seth Godin (recently). The subheading was "How Was Your Day?" (p100-101):

It was 4 a.m. and I can't sleep. So I'm sitting in the lobby of a hotel in Jamaica, checking my email.

A couple walks by, obviously on their way to bed, .... The woman looks over me and, in a harsh whisper a little quieter than a yell, says to her friend, "Isn't that sad? That guy comes here on vacation and he's stuck checking his email. He can't even enjoy his two weeks off."

I think the real question - the one they probably wouldn't want to answer - was, "Isn't it sad that we have a job where we spend 2 weeks avoiding the stuff we have to do 50 weeks a year?"

It took me a long time to figure out why I was so happy to be checking my email in the middle of the night. It had to do with passion. Other than sleeping, there was nothing I'd rather have been doing in that moment - because I'm lucky enough to have a job where I get to make change happen....

While I was typing up the above paragraphs, it was the 2nd time I read those paragraphs... and couldn't stop myself shaking my head yet smiling when I read "Isn't it sad that we have a job where we spend 2 weeks avoiding the stuff we have to do 50 weeks a year?" So, that's avoidance? That's escape? Hahaha....

But I like what the author says, "It had to do with passion". Yes... Passion is the word. Hm... maybe here, sometimes (or most of the time?) - Passion leads to Indulgence? When one is indulged in doing sometime, will boredom comes. Am I a boring person...maybe, maybe not... depends on what perspective one takes... :D

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While typing this post... the CD was playing (coincidently) "Follow Your Heart" by Mario Frangoulis... It goes like this...

• Every little tear you cry
• Leaves your heart so heavy
• Every time you hear goodbye
• You wonder will it ever end
• There's nothing I can tell you
• The world moves on and on
• But I still believe in love
• Follow your heart
• Wherever it takes you
• Nobody knows
• Where the wind blows
• No one can say
• Follow your dreams
• Wherever they find you
• Lost and alone, the light in the storm
• Will always be with you
• If you follow our heart
• When the world's a little crazy
• The truth's so hard to find
• But I still believe in love
• Follow your heart
• Wherever it takes you
• Nobody knows
• Where the wind blows
• No one can say
• Follow your dreams
• Wherever they find you
• Lovers and friends, they fade in the end
• But the love that's inside you
• Grows stronger inside you
• Will always be with you
• Follow your heart

Talking about "Deeps"

Many a time, we talk about doing something to deepen understanding, etc... Then when mp3 came in last year, heard about this Deep Learning... Then next thing was this January when we were in UK's study trip, we were hit by the 4 deeps, advocated to bring about another dimension of engagement of learners and stakeholders... of course, with an impact on how the school organises its resources and curriculum approach, too! Wah! Deep Learning, Deep Support, Deep Leadership and Deep Experience! Wah... chim chim chim....

In the recent meetings, keep hearing about this "Deep Learning" thing... quite certain the way our define is pretty different from what's described in the 4-Deeps framework... at least, in our local school's context...

Then, people talked about deep thinking... Oops! Is that just referring to thinking more deeply, being able to see the big picture and understand the inter-connectivity of various entities in the system... analysing the situation and knowing how to react and act accordingly?

Next, people went into something call deep discussion!!! Oops! How deep is deep when it comes to discussion? Wow! going into very detail and probing lots of things that were most of the time neglected (er... or hack care?)

So, everybody seem to get into this deeeeeeeeeeeep mode.... Oops! please don't get too excited over the deep deep thing!!! While we care to go deep, do remember to keep the big picture in mind too... not to be lost in the deeps (er... bottomless)...

双面。机会。

曾经，写过一篇关于人际关系，和人与人不同的处事方式所引起不愉快的经验。当然，要紧记的是，事事无绝对，不可用仅仅一次的经验来，来评价与衡量他人的态度，价值观。当然，不应因一个经验而一盖而论。那，对自己，对他人，也是不公平的。所以，一直都坚持，给予适当的机会，给“转机”一个机会吧！当然，也有人认为，只是“好人”的看法吧！可是，试想想，我们也希望他人用同样的看法来看待我们吧！

是的，至今，仍然牢牢地记住，once is an accident, twice is a coincidence, but thrice is a pattern的原则。相信3次，就够了吧！过了3 次才判“死刑”，也该是人之义尽了吧！

有时，听到某某人说，曾经与某某人合作过，种种不愉快的经验，所以对将来合作的可能性不高，即使合作，也未必是顺利的等等忠告。当然，非常感谢这些有用的忠告，可是，我们要以竹竿打翻整船人吗？还是用这忠告来提高警觉呢？

容忍。自由。

容忍比自由还更重要。容忍真的比自由还更重要吗?

第一眼看到时，会问，是真的吗？往往，到多听到“自由是无价的！”
深想一下，就如靖雅说的，是真的。

容忍给予他人空间， 容忍给予自己时间去冷静，去思考。 容忍，并不表示退缩，容忍，也不表示让步。容忍，是让我们有时间去了解状况，更深一层的了解，然后作出更全面的决定，更周详的计划。所谓：小心可驶万年船。

也许，目前，较贴切的，是：容忍 〉冷静 〉谨慎 〉周详 〉可驶万年船 吧！
其实，想一下，当我们有了深思熟虑的计划后，当然，就能够跟着大纲自由的发挥了。

自由，是有代价的。也许，简单一点，在胡适这句话里，另一体会，就是，“有了容忍，才能享有自由吧！”

毕。